How To Build Self Confidence In Adults

Being an adult is hard.  Finding information on how to build self confidence in adults is even harder.  You can find lots of resources that talk about how to do it with children, but very few address how to do it for adults.

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The bad news is that as adults, we often have a lot of preconceived ideas about ourselves and others that get in the way.  But with effort, you can learn how to build self confidence in adults.  Here are 5 tips to help you on your way.

1.  Recognize Past Successes

One of the great things about being an adult is that we have built up a lot of experiences.  For most of us, we have some area in our lives where we feel we have achieved some level of success.  We have some achievement that we are proud to have earned.  To learn how to build self confidence in adults, we need to first recognize what successes we have had in our lives.

2.  Examine The Successes.

Once we have determined the successes we have had in our past, it can be very helpful to look at the reasons why we were able to achieve those successes.  Success does not usually happen by accident, but rather through achievement.  And building confidence is about realizing that we have the ability to achieve the things we want to achieve.

As we look at these experiences, we should look at what we did differently in those circumstances.  Were we more focused with fewer distractions?  Did we set and reach for goals along the way to the target goal?  Each thing that we learn from the successes is another piece of the puzzle of how to build confidence in adults.

3.  Apply the Lessons

Once we have learned what we think led to our successes that we have achieved, we can start applying those lessons to other areas of our lives.  If we found that we were setting and reaching for small goals on the way to the larger goal, then perhaps we can take a look at something we are trying to achieve now and see how we can break that down into smaller goals.

4.  Chart Your Progress

One of the biggest keys in knowing how to build confidence in adults is seeing how we improve over time.  The best way to track that improvement is to chart our progress.  We can do this easily in a journal.  We can write down what it is that we tried to do, and judge how well we did it.  Writing down how we felt about how we did can also be a big benefit.

5.  Express Gratitude

One thing that people with high self confidence are able to do is to express gratitude.  As we learn how to build self confidence in adults, we can start expressing our own gratitude for the things that we have, the people in our lives, and more.  One thing I do in my own journal is to write down 5 things that I am grateful for at that moment in time.  The more I see that I have to be grateful for, the better I feel about myself and the more confident I feel to take on what lies before me.


One thing that can help you get started right away is to start saying affirmations to yourself.  Say them out loud at least 10 to 20 times a day.  Say them with energy.  Here are a couple of good ones to start out with:

“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.”
“My confidence is growing every day.”

Good luck to you as you learn how to build self confidence in adults in your own efforts to build your success, one block at a time.

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14 comments… add one

  • Lana @ Rug Cleaning Los Angeles November 2, 2011, 5:00 pm

    #1 Is where it hits home for me. I Have had such a rich past and somehow I forget this. Looking back at old pictures always builds self-confidence for me.

  • Grady Pruitt November 3, 2011, 12:25 am

    I know that for me, I’ve had some past successes, but failed to apply many of the lessons I learned in them. It wasn’t until I was conceiving this site that I realized that I’ve been ignoring things that I’ve really known for a long time and would have been much better off if I had simply heeded the lessons.

    thanks for your comment!

  • Candice Michelle January 5, 2012, 4:06 am

    In doing the first one, am I going to consider only those successes that are considered remarkable or all the successes that I have achieve, whether small or big?
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  • Zoe January 11, 2012, 8:00 am

    Thanks for the tips here. I’ve actually used the “Every day in every way I’m getting better and better,” a while back and it really did work! I actually felt that I was changing for the Better and I even started to exercise and have a more positive outlook on life. I don’t know why I stopped but I will definitely start up again! I also love the tip about celebrating past successes, it’s a good one and something I never really thought of. Once we try to find out what caused the success we can learn to repeat it for even more achievements. It’s really all about your mindset, isn’t it?
    Great post and Thank you!
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  • Grady Pruitt January 15, 2012, 11:56 pm

    Zoe, I’ve come to believe that 50% of any achievement is having the right mindset. Get that in place, and take action (another 45% or so), and the rest will eventually fall into place.

    Thanks for stopping by!

  • Laura March 5, 2012, 5:23 am

    Confidence is hard to come by but this always helps me
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  • Grady Pruitt March 8, 2012, 9:22 pm


    Confidence does take a lot of work. Those things you listed in your post are some good things to keep in mind when trying to develop confidence. I especially like the one about stepping outside your comfort zone. Most things are only a little out of our comfort zone and just a little can go a long way.

    Thanks for your comment!

  • Melia@cheap seo packages March 31, 2012, 4:56 am

    you have provided nice information in your article. I loved it ! However, a little taste of success is also necessary to grow confidence.
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  • Grady Pruitt April 1, 2012, 12:12 am

    Thank you, Melia. And I agree. Success does breed success. That’s one reason I think breaking a big goal into smaller parts is such a great idea. Each one of those “little steps” is a success in the notch to the big goal.

    Thanks for your comments!

  • Kate Brown Wilson May 28, 2012, 2:36 am

    Hello there Grady, I think that building up our own self confidence is very difficult if we are not motivated or inspired by something. you are right that there are many things we can use in building up this habit.
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  • Grady Pruitt May 28, 2012, 2:24 pm

    I think we’re always motivated or inspired by something when we decide we need to improve our self confidence, but what is hard is taking the actions we need to take on a consistent basis to get to where we want to go. Thanks for your comment, Kate!

  • Kate Brown Wilson May 29, 2012, 1:25 am

    I guess you are right Grady, but the problem of each people, is on how they will do it. am I right?
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  • Joanna June 16, 2012, 3:34 pm

    Smiling is catching. If you don’t believe me, smile at a few individuals over the next few time. Don’t grin like a fanatic (that just places other individuals off), just allow yourself to smile normally. You’ll be pleased how many individuals will smile returning. Which, in convert, creates them seem user friendly and more friendly, which will help with your self esteem stages.

  • Grady Pruitt June 16, 2012, 11:52 pm

    Great tip, Joanna! Smiling at people is a great way to break the ice with them. Thanks for sharing!


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